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God's Greatest Gift -- Parents!!!
Anant Kapoor , New Delhi: Feb 6 2009
India :

I recently got this mail from some one who is very close to my heart and probably the O2 of my life.. after reading this I guess all of you would be able to make out from who I have received this mail. I really liked it and thought of sharing the same with all of you. Hope you all will like it.

WORRY

Is there a magic cutoff period when
Offspring become accountable for their own
Actions? Is there a wonderful moment when
Parents can become detachEd spectators in
The lives of their children and shrug, ‘It’s
Their life,’ and feel nothing?

When I was in my twenties , I stood in a hospital
Corridor waiting for doctors to put a few
Stitches in my daughter’s head. I asked, ‘When do
You stop worrying?’ The nurse said,
‘When they get out of the accident stage..’
My Dad just smiled faintly and said nothing.

When I was in my thirties, I sat on a little
Chair in a classroom and heard how one of my
Children talked incessantly, disrupted the class,
And was headed for a career making
License plates. As if to read my mind, a teacher
Said, ‘Don’t worry, they all go through
This stage and then you can sit back, relax and
Enjoy them.’
My dad just smiled Faintly and said nothing.

When I was in my forties, I spent a lifetime
Waiting for the phone to ring, the cars to come
Home, the front door to open. A friend said,
‘They’re trying to find themselves. Don’t! worry,
In a few years, you can stop worrying. They’ll be
Adults.’
My dad just smiled faintly And said nothing.

By the time I was 50, I was sick & tired of being
Vulnerable. I was still worrying over my
Children, but there was a new wrinkle. There
Was nothing I could do about it. My
Dad just smiled faintly and said nothing. I
Continued to anguish over their failures, be
Tormented by their frustrations and absorbed in
Their disappointments.

My friends said that when my kids got married I
Could stop worrying and lead my own
Life. I wanted to believe that, but I was
Haunted by my dad’s warm smile and his
Occasional, ‘You look pale. Are you all right?
Call me the minute you get home. Are
You depressed about something?’
Can it be that parents are sentenced to a
Lifetime of worry? Is concern for one another
Handed down like a torch to blaze the trail of
Human frailties and the fears of the
Unknown? Is concern a curse or is it a virtue
That elevates us to the highest form of life?
One of my children became quite irritable
Recently, saying to me,
‘Where were you? I’ve been Calling for 3 days, and no one answered I was worried.’ I smiled a warm smile.

The torch has been passed.

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Beautiful :)
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Anant Kapoor
New Delhi, India
Thanks :)
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Wonda L
Earth, Canada
Writings like this foul people to think the world is Rosy and most children have loving caring parents but the fact is there are fewer good parents compared to bad or less caring parents,
if one is lucky enough to get thoes thoughts than that was a gift but most that read these kinds of dream thoughts won’t change any of their parenting skills at all
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Anant Kapoor
New Delhi, India
I agree with you, however you can bring in a change and start things on a positive note, and then you will feel better.
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Wonda L
Earth, Canada
Writings like this foul people to think the world is Rosy and most children have loving caring parents but the fact is there are fewer good parents compared to bad or less caring parents,
if one is lucky enough to get thoes thoughts than that was a gift but most that read these kinds of dream thoughts won’t change any of their parenting skills at all
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Wonda L
Earth, Canada
For a parent or grandparent there is nothing more satisfying to fell the unspoiled and real love of a child for no reason other than you made them feel good and safe
The ones that had a chance to fell this and missed out on one of the most special gifts of nature will never know what life is realy about
Have a body pain for and hour and it seems like forever but sit with a child for a hour and it seems like a second ,so get as many seconds as you can before culture and social brainwashing spoil it
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Anant Kapoor
New Delhi, India
Very well said.
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Wonda L
Earth, Canada
I would rather sit with a child before they relied on earth knowledge to survive ,than sit with all the money or all the intellectual people in the world-the money has no feeling and the intellectuals have no truth
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Anant Kapoor
New Delhi, India
That is what all of us should do as these moments are priceless.
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ARVIND K.PANDEY
PRAYAG, India
Many thanks to both Anant and writer of the mail for glorifying the worth of parents.It’s very difficult to place anything on the same pedestal as glorious as love of parents!!Let’s not miss the chance to serve them in best possible ways.And yes, I feel those people very lucky who have served their parents quite well.
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Anant Kapoor
New Delhi, India
Thanks for appreciating the article.
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Kalyani Rampilla
Hyderabad, India
Dear Anant,
Very beautiful an very true. Its not just parents but also eldest siblings who tend to be protective and keep worrying about the others.
But, yes nowadays there seems to be a dilution of these emotions, especially where the kids are too preoccupied or located at distant places to be at their parents side in their time of need. Those who are lucky to stay close and also take time to spend time with their parents, they serve God best. Reminds me of the lines in the poem ”Abou Ben Adhem”. His name is leading the list of those who love God, when he says that he would be known as one who loves his fellow humans.
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Anant Kapoor
New Delhi, India
Dear Kalyani,
Yes even the elder siblings are as good as parents. But as you said that nowadays the emotions are diluting, it is true but very sad as all of us are so busy running in this never ending race to reach the top even without knowing where the top is, in some cases the priorities have changed and fame and success seems to be the most ”in” thing.
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